My bonus kids are truly surrounded by an extended network of love and support that many might only dream of. Growing up in a blended family myself, I know firsthand how this experience can create an abundance of connections—not just from their biological families but also from my side of the family. It’s heartwarming to see love extend far beyond traditional boundaries, forming layers of support and care. From their dad’s family and their mom’s family to my parents and even “great bonus grandparents,” my bonus kids have a wide circle of caring people who show up for them. Family, after all, is about those who show up with love, no matter how they come into your life.

One of the most special moments for our family recently was my mom’s wedding this summer. My kids each had a special role in the ceremony, and even though their tasks weren’t considered “big jobs,” they were still significant. Watching them contribute to such an important day was a reminder of how seamlessly they are embraced by all sides of the family.

Another touching moment came last weekend at my oldest bonus son’s final cross-country meet at Regionals. He had extra support with Grammy (my mom) and Grampy (my bonus dad) cheering him on from the sidelines. Seeing how invested they are in supporting him and celebrating his accomplishments reminded me again of the strength and beauty of our blended family connections.

Grampy’s parents and my grandma are also deeply invested in all of my children. They always ask about how the kids are doing and eagerly look forward to seeing them whenever we visit. This Thanksgiving, we’ll be traveling to Oklahoma to spend the holiday with them, and I can already feel the warmth and excitement that will fill the house as everyone comes together to share stories, laughter, and love.

My dad’s (grandpa) side of the family is just as involved and caring toward my children. I’ll never forget the first time we visited my dad’s house after Christmas, and my bonus mom (meme) had gifts for all the kids. This was early in our marriage, and we didn’t expect it at all, but it was so appreciated. Grandpa, who treats the 4th of July as his own version of Christmas, left an equally memorable impression. The first time he took the kids to the fireworks stand, he said, “Just put whatever you want in the basket.” I panicked, laughing, “Don’t tell them that! You’ll spend way too much money!” But my dad didn’t care. All he wanted was to see them have a great time.

We don’t live close to my parents—my mom is 2.5 hours away in Oklahoma, and my dad is 3.5 hours away in southwest Kansas—but we make an effort to visit as often as possible. These trips remind us that distance doesn’t diminish love. The effort we put into maintaining these connections strengthens our bond and reinforces the value of showing up for one another, no matter how far apart we are.

My oldest bonus daughter’s mom is remarried as well, which means she receives so much love from her bonus dad’s family, too. The same goes for my other three bonus kids, whose mom is also remarried. They are embraced by their bonus dad’s family, adding even more layers to their supportive and loving community.

Reflecting on all these moments, I’m reminded that our blended family is a tapestry woven with love from every direction. It’s not always perfect, and there are challenges, but the support and joy we share make every effort worthwhile. My bonus kids, with their extended families and connections, experience an abundance of love that stretches across homes, towns, and even states. It’s a beautiful reminder that family isn’t defined by blood alone but by those who show up, invest their hearts, and create lasting memories. As we continue to embrace our journey, I am grateful for every person who contributes to making our family story so rich and full of love.